Deck the Halls (with Boundaries)

Ah, the holidays! The time of year that conjures up images of cozy fireplaces, hot cocoa, and festive gatherings. Or… maybe it’s more like frantic holiday shopping, a never-ending loop of "Jingle Bells," and clients with soaring stress levels.

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A big part of your job is helping clients navigate this season with greater resilience, self-compassion, and practical coping skills.

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But what about you, the therapist?

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Give yourself permission to take a break

You preach self-care all year, now it’s your turn to practice it! (And no, scrolling through therapy memes doesn’t count as self-care.)

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This year, give yourself the gift of time off. Even if it’s just a day or two, take time away from clients to mentally unwind and recharge.

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Ideas to try:

• Have shorter sessions or condensed days if your schedule allows.
• Set a firm date for your “last day of the year” and don’t be tempted to squeeze in extra appointments.
• If the word “no” gives you pause, try “I’m fully booked” or “I’m at capacity” (because you are).

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Set boundaries and communicate 

Once you’ve determined your holiday schedule, manage expectations by clearly communicating your availability to clients. This gives them time to adjust to the idea that you’ll be out of touch and allows them to make alternate plans for support.

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If you use the TherapyAppointment platform and offer client self-scheduling, make sure to update your online availability. You may also consider sending out an email to your clients restating your holiday hours.

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Discuss holiday triggers early

The holiday season can be as emotionally loaded as it is festive. For clients feeling overwhelmed, one of the best ways to support them is by starting the conversation early. 

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Explore what comes up for them around the holidays, whether it's financial stress, family tension, social pressures, or the absence of loved ones. Then work with them to create an action plan that will help them anticipate and respond to these challenges.

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Ditch holiday perfectionism

The pressure to create a “perfect” holiday can suck all the fun out of the season. This year, go easy on yourself. Choose one or two traditions that are most meaningful and only put your energy into those. 

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You can then use the extra time to do something that brings you joy, whether it’s binge-watching cheesy holiday movies, visiting friends, or locking yourself in a room to read your favorite book.

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Embrace the chaos

Yes, the holidays are intense! Lean into it—enjoy the chaos rather than fight it. Laugh at the ridiculous decorations, accept that you may not send the perfect holiday cards, and let go of the idea of a picture-perfect holiday season.

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